 Conscious relationships (deep, sustainable, evolutionary loves) are not as much creatively manifested, as they are deliberately earned.
I’ve seen this repeatedly in my coaching experience, and in my own life as well. There was a time when the quality of my relationships distinctly leveled up from what I would call mature relationships, to what I now call conscious relationships. And it wasn’t any of the typical actions or steps that most coaches suggest that took me over that threshold. It was something much deeper, and more thorough. Just like the process I take my clients through. We might read a bunch of books on dating and relationships. We might take some time to cultivate healthy habits, involvement with community, and a meaningful sense of purpose. We might decide that we’re calling in the next great love of our life. We might focus on maintaining positivity to attract a potential romance. We might even meditate and pray to co-create the magic of new love. All of those steps can be important. But, they aren’t nearly adequate for the change that most of my clients desire. Unless we take full responsibility for our role as the Master Gardener of our Unconscious, Conscious, and Interpersonal Self, we’ll continually become blocked by our own limitations. It’s rare for anyone to provide useful guidance in all 3 of these areas. Unconscious. Conscious. Interpersonal. And yet, these are the 3 core areas that determine our ability to attract and maintain a satisfying conscious relationship! And we all have important opportunities for development in each one. For example: Unconscious Self: Are you free (enough) from the negative beliefs and generalizations caused by past experiences to date with confidence and function well in deep connection? Conscious Self: Do you have an empowered and healthy relationship with your thoughts and emotions, your body, and your values, that allows you to feel worthy, strong, and stable in relationships? Interpersonal: Do you have a diverse and powerful skill set that allows you to recognize true compatibility and form deep and meaningful connections with people who can meet you in your vulnerability? After 23 years of learning in committed relationships… … and 10 years of professional experience helping people make important changes in their lives… …it has become abundantly clear that each of these areas must be included in a solid strategy to become ready for conscious love. These are the areas I address to help people get ready: Unconscious: I can help you release the attachment to feeling rejected, neglected, controlled, or deprived, and update your inner map of relational reality… …to guide you toward healthy love. Conscious: I can help you deepen your connection with your Core Self and harmonize your inner landscape… …to become more attractive and magnetize a partner based on soul-resonance. Interpersonal: I can help you discover your mental, emotional, and energetic relationship styles, identify a compatible partner, and cultivate skillful vulnerability… …to create a sustainable conscious connection. Hannah and I have both had to do a lot of work in each of these areas. And the work continues! But without our investment in these 3 areas of our development, we would not have been ready for each other when we met. What about you? Do you desire to level up into a conscious relationship? Are you willing to put in the effort to strategically earn it? What are your weakest links within the unconscious, conscious, and interpersonal areas of your growth? The path may not be quite as simple as some would have you believe… …but it IS clear. Apply for a Chemistry Session |
