 The best dating advice is actually not advice at all, but training in personal development.
Years before I dedicated my coaching business to dating and relationships, I had spent thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours learning from leaders in the dating and relationship field. Most of what I learned either didn’t align with my values, or it didn’t have a lasting effect on the results I was getting. I might have kept and integrated about 10-20% of what I learned. What has actually made a deep and sustainable difference is my dedication to my healing and growth as an individual. I’ve come to the conclusion that: All true healing, growth, and successful manifestation is rooted in dynamic Self-connection. ESPECIALLY RELATIONSHIPS. And for me and my clients it can be broken down to our relationship with our selves on 3 levels: Our relationship with our mind/thoughts Our relationship with our body/emotions Our relationship with our soul/values If we try to rely on common dating and relationship advice, we tend to get caught up in theoretical constructs about the nature of men and women, and we struggle to make meaningful and sustainable connections. Men are this way, women are that way, so you should act like ______. But, for the most part, that approach will be of little use without FIRST understanding and developing our inner world. Without seriously committing to the inner path of personal growth, our efforts to connect are usually thwarted by: Poor self-image Low self-worth Internal conflict Insecurity Fragility Anxiety Depression Excessive Moods Emotional unavailability Low tolerance for intensity And we end up sending out a weak or mixed signal to potential partners. Or, if we’re fortunate enough to meet someone special, we struggle to STAY connected. Because, our interpersonal connections are a reflection of our connection to our self. All true healing, growth, and successful manifestation is rooted in dynamic Self-connection. Especially in dating and relationships. But, the good news is clear! IF you’re willing to honor a deep commitment to your inner development, you can make major shifts in the results you’ve been getting in your love life. We all have lingering opportunities for deeper self-connection. If you’re courageous enough to take responsibility for yours, to face them with love and compassion and the willingness to let go of what is no longer serving you, you can change your love life. I’m here for you, when you’re ready to form a deep and sustainable, healthy relationship with your mind, your body, and your soul. I’m here for you, when you’re ready to move into the next stage of your evolution, and the next level of connecting and relating with potential partners. I’m here for you, when you’re ready to take creative ownership of your relational experience. All true healing, growth, and successful manifestation is rooted in dynamic Self-connection. Let’s talk |
